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Angie Diaz-Cervo

My name is Angie Diaz-Cervo and I was born on the 18th of November, 1965 in Port-au-Prince, Haiti. I am the daughter of Haitian/Cuban sailor Anthony Salomon of Les Cayes and of Ghislene Moise of Benet, Haiti a seamstress. I am also the mother of two teenagers. The Salomon descent from Haitian President Lysius Felicite Salomon and The Diaz-Cervo family has a long, established history in New Jersey, dating back to 1996. My father died at the age of 43 in 1972 from pneumonia, which was also the likely result from a cold he caught overseas. I had a happy, normal childhood as an older child, leaving me somewhat spoiled. My mom remarried after ten years and her last husband was Andre, he became a big part of my life and I maintained close contact with him until his death in 2014. Growing up without my birth father impact me greatly and left me with an issue of abandonment and low self-esteem. I got over being timid by being a runway model for different Colleges and Church. My mother left to make a better life for us in the USA, her older brother Elias Moise came to the USA with a company and they give him the opportunity to get his green card, then after five years in America he became an American Citizen which gave him the advantage to sent for his brothers and sisters to come to the USA. Each of them worked hard for five years and became American Citizen. My mother worked hard for me to have the best education at the prestigious Gerard Gourge Preparatory School. I migrated to the states at the early age of fifteen with her three sisters Rith, Marthe, Dany  and three brothers Abraham, Remps and Antoine. I continued on to Erasmus Hall High School in Brooklyn, NY then attended Essex County College and St. Peter’s College where I graduated in 1991, with an AAS in Arts and science. My working career started as a sales person at Valley Fair then I worked at Food town, Karen’s Curtain, Burger Kings when I was still in High School. After I earned an associate degree in Arts and Science and get my license in Radiology Technology after graduation I worked at Christ Hospital in Jersey City, New Jersey for two years and Union Hospital in Union, New Jersey for seven years. I also worked for Dr. Botwin and Innella for about one year part-time. While working in the operating room at Christ hospital a nurse mentioned to me that my neck was too big and I should go see an Endocrinologist. I found out that I had hyperthyroidism; I understood that was the reasons for my fatigue, sweaty feet, palpitation and mood swing. Soon after I met my ex-husband Jose Diaz-Cervo at Union Hospital in the Radiology Department, both of us worked there. Jose and I got married in 1995; I became the mother of his two children Daniel 4 1/2 and Kassandra 2 1/2 years old from a previous marriage. Due to complication from my thyroid surgery, I was informing by my doctor that I may not be able to have children. Eventually, Jose Diaz-Cervo and I have two children of our own. Prior to that, he and I had a partnership with Bushido Karate in East Hanover. In 1996, while working for Union Hospital, I became a businesswoman by co-founding DiCervo’s Inc/Kingdom Karate World Group LLC. which expand into several facilities and many black belts? With hard work and an impeccable work ethic, I quickly propelled DiCervo’s Inc into a thriving business. My intimate knowledge of the business community and geography of New Jersey make me one of the most qualified Program Director. We owned vending routes in New Jersey for about two years then we sold the route to run the Karate school full-time. I established and maintained positive relationships with parents, and students. I helped to establish expansion into several locations by recruited as many as 30 new clients per month. I developed and managed working staffs and graduated several black belts. I helped the team to generated sales per month and developed and implemented plans to encourage student participation. I implement and managed the development and maintenance of Summer Camp at the center. I carried out weekly treatment meeting and ensured clients are progressing. I did advertising and social Media outreach on networks such as Facebook, Twitter, etc. I promoted private sales & monthly events. I build relationships with bloggers & online publishers. I used database management to track social media & marketing progress. I implemented various projects related to merchandising & items processing. A friend of my ex-husband recruited him in a financial business and as his wife, I had to get involved somehow to work as a team. We worked hard days and late nights to propel in the business. We got promoted to Regional Vice-President in Primerica in 2004. In 2006 life became unbearable for me, my marriage was falling apart, my health deteriorated with hemorrhage. I used my knowledge in the field to develop my skills as a Haitian-American author. My first book entitled My Grateful Book from Dorrance Publishing is a direct result of my hard work as well as life experiences. Unfortunately, I got divorced after thirteen of marriage and it was not a friendly separation. I share my passion for writing by blogging about certain topics and issues which have an impact on my social life. In my leisure time, some of my activities include fashion, traveling, reading and writing as well as staying fit. I am a social butterfly. To reach my goal I have a set time to start the assignment around a learning environment, therefore, the distractions will be minimal. I am committed to managing my time so I can achieve the great result. I believe that I can succeed and overcome the obstacles in my life. I used my phone calendar to keep track of schedule events and it sent me reminders. After my divorce and illness from the thyroid disorder, I now work as an ABA paraprofessional and substitute teacher for special needs children. My success comes naturally from my creativity, a passion for people and my personality described as a social butterfly. I wear different hats in my life because my life is dividing into several categories. I am a creative person and my friend advised me that I work well under pressure. I enjoy the chaos in my life most of the time. I m comfortable being a mother and I am successful at it. I was well connected in the business community, I instilled confidence in people, and they knew they will always get a straight answer from me. In December 2009, I got divorced from my husband of fourteen years and the corporation. My next journey continues with blogging at Fan box then I became a success coach there, however, the company changed policy which made it more like a credit card company. I also work as a substitute teacher and currently continuing my education at the University Of Phoenix. Over 6 years ago, I had a catalyst event that transformed my life. Although it took me some time to come to grips with some of the challenges I was faced with at the time, I realized that I love people; and making a positive difference in their lives is where I get my rewards and satisfaction. I’ve had wonderful opportunities to meet and maintain friendships with some of the most educated and wonderful people. Time and time again, I’m taught that wisdom, understanding, empowerment, commitment and success come from the passion for you and the people in our lives. I wear different hats in my life because my life is dividing into several categories. I am a creative person and my friend advised me that I work well under pressure. I enjoy the chaos in my life most of the time. I m comfortable being a mother, and an ABA paraprofessional and I am successful at it. I will close out this autobiography with the most important thing in my life, my children, and my family. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man and we plan on getting married in two years. I cannot have any more children but we can adopt or be foster parents if we like.

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Trauma

I would not wish what happened to me on my worst enemies, however, the trauma saved my life. For years, I had a fibroid and each time I got pregnant, the fibroid protruded outside of my vagina. Or my third trimester I had to stop working because the fibroid got to big, after I gave birth to each of my kids, the fibroid went internally. Since it was my last trimester, I was not able to get it removed. As my menstrual came each month after my children, I bled heavily and my blood count dip so low I became anemic. I had to get iron injection every morning for two weeks while I took a class to get me back on my feet financially. I learned that I can use my credits from college to get a job as a substitute teacher and after one year the board of education gave me a contract to work with special needs children. The contract came with a membership of the Union for teachers which I get life insurance, ten sick days, three personal days, pension and the connection to enrolled with the teachers the Credit Union. I cashed out my pension from Union hospital to pay my rent the year before. I had to go to court before I had a hysterectomy and I put the check in the bank then asked my friend Linda to drop the rent money at the courthouse for me because I was in the hospital. I had surgery the Thanksgiving weekend and get a contract with the board of education six weeks later TYG.
I have tried different things to keep my spirit up and some are not aligned with my faith but God knew my heart was always in the right place. If I did not go through the pain of the trauma, I would off keep doing the same things I was doing for years, which was put myself in the end while I took care of a husband, business and still being a mom to four children.

What Are You Saying NO To?

 
What Are You Saying NO To?
 
By James Altucher
This is what I did to ruin my life.

I had a policy: always say “yes” to opportunity. If you grab enough opportunities, I thought, then one would work out and be a winner.

What does “a winner” mean?

It might mean that the goddess, Oprah, would call me.

Or that money would rain down and bless me with its kiss of freedom.

Or that more people that live on this planet (and other nearby Earth-like planets) would love me.

I don’t know what it means. It’s a broken Rubik’s Cube.

Here’s the thing: EVERY time you say “Yes” to one thing you are saying “No” to something else.

This was one policy I had: CNBC would call and say, “Can you come on TV at 5 p.m. today to talk about Apple’s latest products?”

“YES!”

And I’d brush my hair (the once a week brush through) put on a fake suit (jacket and maybe a tie) and go 5 miles uptown to a studio.

Then I’d be nervous. So I’d call my business partner and go over what I was going to say. No matter how many times I did it I was always scared to death.

They would put me in a dark room and a camera would stare at me. I’d say to myself, “I surrender. Let me say the thing that will help the most people.”

Who was I talking to in the dark? Maybe one day I’ll know. I was just scared.

Everyone was scared. About the economy. About their bank accounts. I wanted less people to be scared.

And then I was on for three minutes. And maybe three other people were on with me, so I’d get 45 seconds of speaking time.

Then I’d go home.

When you see someone on TV for 45 seconds it means they probably prepared physically, emotionally, and mentally for a good 3-5 hours, including the time to get home.

I had hundreds of those segments carved out of the skinny bones of my life.

Which means I lost my marriage. Which means I spent less time with my children. Which means I spent less time with Claudia when we started seeing each other.

Which means I spent less time on creative efforts. Or other business efforts.

For what? The ego of being on TV maybe. Or maybe I thought exposure like that was good for my business efforts. 45 seconds.

I always said “Yes.”

I always said “no” to Claudia. And to my kids. And to my creativity.

I will never get those hundreds of 3-5 hour segments back. And now my kids are not little kids anymore. They are big kids. They do big things. They don’t want me as much.

That was one policy. I had other policies.

I would take speaking gigs where I had to fly, no matter what the money was. I figured: more experience, some money, more connections, and the always-favorite: “Hey, you never know what opportunities this can create.”

The always say “Yes” policy.

Five years later I see my daughter about to turn into an adult. Her eyes look past me and not at me.

I always said “Yes” to a book deal. Maybe it gave me experience writing books. But I look back on the 16 books I’ve written. Maybe 5 are good. The rest….

It was the “always say ‘No”” policy to taking walks with Claudia, and relaxing, and getting in shape, and being happy.

I’m in a train right now, skimming along the banks of the Hudson River and watching the leaves change right before my eyes on the other side.

“Leaves change” is another way of saying a 10,000 tiny deaths are happening right in front of me, creating immense beauty.

Well, which is it?

I had a week of meetings and podcasts and other things planned to make use of my time in the city.

I took my daughters last night to a Broadway opening and then put them in a car at midnight last night. “Have a good week!”

I said “Yes” again to bullshit.

Today I packed up, changed all my plans, and got on the train. I watched people kiss in Grand Central. I’m watching the leaves. I’m watching the water.

Now I’m going home to say “Yes” to my children and Claudia. And to me.

ABA Paraprofessional

ABA paraprofessional in early intervention for special needs children focuses on getting the children to learn life skills in order to be part of the society and curve some of the behaviors. The process start as soon as the child gets up from the bed, a regular routine is very important and any changes can upset the child. He or she can communicate what he or she needs, and what he or she is avoiding or seeking. For example: if I want one kind of student to learn the lessons, I need to know not to remove him or her from the items he or she has in his or her hands, instead, I need to cover the item with one hand and ask him or her the question I need him or her to answer. I implemented ABA special-education methods and have experiences with ABLLS-R assessment and test. I followed policies and regulations in keeping progress notes and student records, and in making the necessary reports. I demonstrated and reinforced social standards of behavior. I established norms of class behavior and maintained order at all times. I taught ONE OR MORE of these: English, math, social sciences, citizenship, art, music. I employed lecture, demonstration, and discussion teaching methods in the class. I Reinforced skills such as independence, problem-solving, and goal-setting. My job including that I ensure a clean and healthy classroom atmosphere by maintaining children’s proper hygiene and following proper diaper changing and potty training policies and procedures.
ABA paraprofessional needs to be dynamic, intelligent, patient and insightful. I am knowledgeable and respectful of my expertise, children with special needs. I worked with the family as an ABA paraprofessional before and after his daily school program. The student has ADHD with impulsivity and can be on the Autism Spectrum. One my many people skills is that I have a keen sense of knowing just when to “push” our student to get more out of him and when to “back off” still keeping students on task, making the best use of their time together. This is often not an easy task. I frequently implement strategies I learned in working with special needs children when my student needs them most. I bring in a nice mix of book, real world, and people knowledge that has been a great source of support for the student and his or her family. Parents cannot put a price tag on knowing their child is safe and happy while they are at work. I have afforded family security and the clear conscience that he is in great hands and well cared for. I must have a perfect attendance record and be prompt every day. Not everyone can work with special need children because you cannot focus on yourself, you need to have a caring heart.
In a classroom setting, I need to worry about my assign student ONLY unless someone needs or asks for assistance because it can become overwhelming with so many students and adults. My assign student needs to be with me at all times! If I am going to simply hang my coat and my student tends to wander or not sit still, I need to take their hand and let them walk with me. It only takes a second for someone to get hurt. If I need to use the restroom or take a moment for myself, I need to ask another adult to keep an eye on my assign student.
Throughout the day, especially during circle time and other instructional times, I must be cautious of how loud I am. The louder I am the louder the student will be. At circle time, I should be engaged with the student I am working with whether it is on the rug or at the table doing a writing activity. If my student is on the bus, it is my responsibility to go outside and get them. Once students are inside, they should sit with a table toy. http://www.amazon.com/dp/B013Z1SA7A/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_tDM3vb1WJ8B2N via @amazon

#1 Factor In Building A Successful Family

#1 Factor in Building a Successful Family

By Dr. Joanne Stern

You may be surprised at how much time and attention successful wealthy families devote to family issues. Sure, you receive a lot of information on stock market analysis, strategic investment recommendations and the best ways to grow and protect your family wealth. But financial matters are only part of the equation.

That’s because the best financial advice in the world can’t overcome a weak family unit that’s unprepared to meet the challenges of preserving multigenerational wealth. That’s why we devote so much energy to showing you how to build a positive family culture, develop strong family relationships, learn better communication skills and resolve conflicts before they tear your family apart.

So what underlying element creates a cohesive, cooperative family capable of sustaining both financial and personal prosperity?

The answer is character.

Character doesn’t necessarily earn you more money or ensure your financial security. And because character is subtle, it doesn’t naturally boost your ego. But it is the foundation upon which successful families are built.

Broken Trust in the Family

I’ve been consulting with a wealthy family whose parents recently passed away. The oldest son (I’ll call him Jim) took over the family business. Everyone thought Jim was a great guy. But he allowed the winds of temptation to carry him away and become deeply involved in porn and prostitution. When his wife found out, she was devastated. He repulsed her. She threatened divorce.

His siblings told Jim that he should resign from his position in the family company. They were horrified that someone with such a deeply flawed character was representing them. They were disgusted because his morals so violently opposed their own. And they were fearful that his behavior would become known in their community and thus ruin their business.

Instead of pursuing honesty, integrity and sound moral behaviors, Jim got sidetracked. He lost sleep thinking of how to cover these new tracks by lying, hiding and covering up. He became exhausted, anxious and depressed.

Jim is clawing his way out of the hole he dug within his family. You can imagine how tenuous his relationships are. But he can’t go backwards and undo what he has done. He’s now working hard to repair that trust and rid himself of the character defects that nearly destroyed him, his family and the family business.

The Slippery Slope of Dishonesty

Not all character flaws are as dramatic as Jim’s. Sometimes lack of character can be as simple as lying when you’re afraid to tell the truth. You convince yourself that bending the truth, just this once, won’t really matter.

But bending the truth is a slippery slope that leads to dishonesty creeping into other areas of your life. It makes you untrustworthy, which damages both personal and business relationships.

Recently I worked with a family trying to divide the household items in the family home after the last parent passed away. It was a large estate home with many antiques and museum-quality valuables. One brother kept slipping into the warehouse and snatching oriental rugs, antique purses, beautifully framed photographs of ancestors and family documents dating back two hundred years.

When the sisters questioned their brother about the missing items, he simply said he didn’t know what had happened to them. They knew he had taken them, but there was nothing they could do. The trust between them vanished and will likely never be rebuilt.

The sisters were angry at the loss of these sentimental and valuable articles. But most of all, they were disappointed in their brother, a man they had loved for many years who had degenerated into a person of low character. The loss of the brother they knew far outweighed the loss of the valuables.

Are You a Moral Compass?

If you’re a parent or a grandparent, there’s an additional purpose of constantly monitoring your character — of making sure you are living an upstanding life. You are the most important role model your kids will ever have, and they imitate your behavior far more than your words.

Even when your kids become adults, they still look to you to be the moral compass in their lives. They watch how you behave and how you treat other people. They take their cues from you.

I met Natasha when she was twenty-one. Her mother is an alcoholic and has been divorced four times, with lots of boyfriends in between. Her mother has never worked because she lives very well off her family trusts. She’s immature, selfish, self-centered and considers only what works for her without regard for how it impacts Natasha.

Natasha doesn’t want to live like her mother. She doesn’t want to become an alcoholic. But she has watched her mom slug a few drinks every time discomfort or anxiety spilled into her life, and Natasha fights against the urge to do the same.

Natasha is now in a serious relationship that resembles her mother’s marriages. But it’s difficult for Natasha to change because her mother is still the most important adult in her life.

Natasha wants to have a job that pays for her lifestyle, even though she also receives monthly checks from her family trust. But she doesn’t know how to talk with her mother about career possibilities because her mom doesn’t understand. Natasha is fighting against her mother’s character and trying to build a better life for herself. But her mother’s behavior has made that an uphill battle.

Like Red Wine on a Cashmere Sweater…

My two daughters each have a two-year-old. They tease me because both toddlers repeat my phrases from time to time. One has picked up, “Oh honestly!” The other uses, “What the heck!”

It’s obvious that my grandchildren pay close attention to what I say and do. How I behave in front of them leaves much the same imprint as spilling a glass of red wine on a white cashmere sweater. Once it’s there, it’s really hard to remove. Am I helping them build good character? Or will they have to overcome the negative influence of my behaviors?

If you place great value on materialism, your children will do the same. If you put on a show and flaunt your wealth in public, your children will probably do the same. If you cheat — on your income taxes, on your spouse, on your restaurant bill — it’s like giving your children a pass to cheat as well. So don’t be surprised if they get caught cheating on their SATs, copying someone else’s term paper or denying bad behavior.

Dishonesty takes a wide variety of forms… and kids learn to mimic them all.

The Greatest Gift of All

All is not lost. Take comfort in knowing that instilling character in your children is within your control. If you live your life with honesty and integrity, they will learn to do the same. If you are generous and thoughtful of others, they will follow suit. If you have a good work ethic and put your passion and energy into producing rather than consuming, they will value that as well.

Sometimes we get so busy dealing with the urgent things at hand — in business and at home — that we don’t take time to examine the state of affairs in our families.

With that in mind, I urge you to take a deep and honest look at your behavior by following these four steps:

1. Make a list of character traits that are important to you and your family’s success.

2. Talk with your kids about character and why it’s important.

3. Analyze whether or not you are living up to the character traits you deem valuable.

4. Take specific steps to align your daily behavior with your ideals.

I recommend that you periodically call “time out” in life to assess where your family is and where you want it to be. These moments help remind you of the long-term goals that can sometimes get lost in the noise of your everyday routines. They also reinforce a sense of mission and purpose in your life.

We all want happiness and well-being for our loved ones. One of the best ways to accomplish that is to act as a shining example of high character in words and deeds. Be the person you want your children to be. It won’t always be easy… but it may be the greatest gift you can give them.

Her relationship

Theresa’s dad died sudently when she was four years old that left a void in her life, she would not wished that to happen to her children. She wanted them to have everything her and her siblings didn’t have, the father of her children were important to her and she supported him. She was a catalist, she believed in changing the family tree.
Whom ever that gave Mat the adviced to put the restraining order on her, God will deal with the person or the persons and she felt sorry for them. They got married September 11, he took her to court for the restraining order November 11

She knew getting involve with a married man was wrong and a mistake but he was in the process of a divorced with two young children whom he adored. He would took care of them as a mom and dad, he claimed that she left him and he was heartbroken over the whole situation. Everyone in the department felt sorry for him since he loved her so much. He needed our pity and she wanted to help him. All she saw was a father that loved his children and he was in pain. He wanted the best for them, he claimed that their mother was too young to took care of them. She also knew that he wasn’t the type that can stay without a relationship, he would be lost and insecure by himself. He needed a mama for himself and his children, men and women felt sorry for him, he knew how to lied about what really happened. He was a master at lying and not telling the whole truth.