Children and some adults need attention and the way they ask for it can be through behaviors, it can a good or bad move. Imagine you had a long day and you need to rest, an adult person just scream like a child and you the other person can ask for what he or she want in a way that is not detrimental for you. The response is to remain calm and tell the person that you had a long day and what is going on with him or her. You can ask ” what is the matter?” And you can help the person with will result in a win win for all. I am not sure if I can continue to live the way I live now.

Another person knows what I use and where I put the item and the person remove or hide the item.


You have the power to create

By Don Miguel Ruiz from “The Mastery of Love” @donMiguelRuiz 
You have the power to create.
Your power is so strong that whatever you believe comes true.
You create yourself, whatever you believe you are.
You are the way you are because that is what you believe about yourself. 
Your whole reality, everything you believe, is your creation.
You have the same power as any other human in the world. 
The main difference between you and someone else is how you apply your power, what you create with your power.
You may be similar to others in many ways, but no one in the whole world lives their life the way you do.
Have a GREAT day and continue doing what you LOVE to do.

The Planning Secrets Of Six Super Successful Women


When I look at successful women like Victoria Beckham and JK Rowling, there are so many mysteries about their lives that I want to know. How do they make sure they’re always on time? Do they use a team to schedule their lives or do they try to be as independent as possible? I know from experience that busy doesn’t always mean productive and that it can be incredibly difficult to keep yourself on track with all the goals you want to achieve if you don’t have the dedication and inner fire within yourself to get it done.

That’s why we’ve started our new weekly series, where we research how successful women plan their day and actually share their secrets for success. The results have been illuminating, inspiring, and incredibly motivating. They get such a lot done during their day and make no excuses.

But how do they actually schedule their lives?

How do they make sure they’re hitting their deadlines, whether it’s to submit writing or just to work out as much as they possibly can?

1. They schedule their work around their lives


Former first lady Michelle Obama had a rigorous schedule during her time at The White House, not only did she have tons of presidential duties, she also had to make sure that she had time for her own initiatives and her personal time. To make this possible, she would always fill in the calendar with her personal life before anything else.

“Starting every year, before I booked anything, agreed to any meetings or conferences, we’d sit down with my assistant and we looked at our lives first,” Michelle has said, “We put potlucks in there, we put date nights in there, I put my workouts, we put our vacations on the calendar first, we put sports things and summers. We planned that out first, and then what was left would be left for work.”

It’s important to flip your mindset about scheduling your year. You don’t have to start with things that are conventionally important, instead, you can put yourself first.

“We let work inundate everything. We have to start setting the priority of allowing people to put their lives before their work.” If you managed to get your hands on the Goals 2019 Diary, you should use this opportunity to start planning your day like Michelle Obama, put your vacations down, write down your date nights, dinners, evenings with your friends before you commit to any other work-related goals.

2. They don’t delegate the important stuff


Oprah laid out her perfect day, spending a lot of time meditating, in nature, and working out. She’s lucky that on a more chilled day she only needs to dedicate a few hours to work, but she still wants to be absolutely in control of everything she needs to do.

“I try to take care of any business in the early afternoon so the rest of the day is mine…Having grown up poor, I can never completely turn over all my money matters to anyone else. It’s important for me to know how much the electricity bill is, to know what’s coming in, what’s going out. I never want to be one of those people who delegates that task to someone else and then one day is surprised to find out how much money they do or don’t have. I go down the line of all the business stuff I need to take care of and usually get it done completely within two hours.” she explained to Harpers Bazaar.

The fantasy of letting someone else take control of all your to-dos is often 100% better than the reality, letting go of what you’re responsible for can get you in trouble and as Oprah says, it’s always better to stay in control.

3. They make time to learn and grow


Emma Watson is a major bookworm, she hides books around in public places, often talks about books and book club and has completed so many reading challenges it’s crazy. She reads feminist classics like Women Who Run With Wolves and The Vagina Monologues, but in order to schedule her day and live her best life, Emma spends a lot of time looking for self-improvement books.

“I am a sucker for anything that promises to change my life,” Watson says. You can’t expect to organize your entire life and be the best version of yourself if you don’t know where to start. If you don’t know what positive changes you should be making or the routines you could be following. Emma reads voraciously and is always looking for new perspectives and new things to try, it helps her continue to push herself to be the best she can possibly be. Make sure to plan some time for learning and developing, try new things and improve yourself. You never know which self-improvement book you’ll pick up next that will change your life, but it might be one of the ones on our list.

4. They strive for perfection 


It’s no surprise that Beyonce strives for perfection, she didn’t get to where she is by giving mediocre performances and expecting second best from herself, but you might be surprised to know that she is so focused on achieving the best that she reportedly watches her performances back, making notes of any mistakes she spots or improvements she wants to make. She then sends an email to her team with the things she’s noticed.

You can’t learn unless you make mistakes, Beyonce knows that too, which is why she’ll often leap into something and make sure to reflect on it and check for mistakes. When you’re planning, make time to evaluate your performance and reflect on your day or week. It’s easy to do this with the Getting Stuff Done planner, you can simply create a list of improvements to make and things you thought went well.

5. They surround themselves with go-getters


Rihanna didn’t get to where she is by resting on her laurels. She felt like her label was taking advantage of her so she went out of the way to change that, she felt as though there want enough representation for people of color in the makeup industry so she launched Fenty beauty and released hundreds of shades. She’s constantly changing the game, and she attributes that to growing, knowing how to speak up and spending time with go-getters.

“Spend time with people who know how to use their days well. Just as iron sharpens iron, positive people will inspire you to be positive.” Rihanna once said. And wise as it sounds, it’s true. If you want to plan your perfect life, you need to surround yourself with people who will motivate you to embrace it and achieve it, rather than people who don’t understand your journey or why you’re working towards it.

6. They just go for it

Photography Debra Hurford Brown © J.K. Rowling 2018

J.K Rowling usually hates motivational lists, she says if she had a ten-step program for success she would have shared it by now, but the one piece of advice she can give is that you just have to start. She started writing Harry Potter the evening after the idea came into her head, but those first few pages were not good enough to be published at all. But she just did it, and that’s the secret to planning the perfect day. Just get it done, sit down with it, stop making excuses and do it. Whether it’s working out, eating healthy, writing a novel, or starting a business. Just do it!

J.K Rowling’s secret weapon is always a notebook and a pen, “Every time I enter a post office or a newsagents I experience an irrational urge to buy loads of pens and notebooks, even though I’ve got plenty at home. This has been going on since childhood. I just can’t stand the sight of them sitting there, unfulfilled.” She fills the notebooks up with everything from ideas to notes for novels and knows that writing it down is the best way to get her to stick to a plan.

5 Telltale Signs You Are Treating Social Media Marketing as an Afterthought

 By Nika Stewart @NikaStewart 
Studies show that the biggest mistake entrepreneurs and businesses make on social media is not investing enough. Though business owners and thought leaders agree that a good social media marketing strategy would be extremely beneficial, many have failed to make it a priority. Companies that invest time, energy, and resources in social media marketing are reaping the many tangible and non-tangible benefits it brings: magnified leadership status, global visibility, increased website traffic, higher sales, media attention, and so much more. Are you investing enough? Or are you treating social media marketing as an afterthought? Here are 5 telltale signs that you may be treating social media marketing as an afterthought (and of course, what you can do about it!)1. You let a whole day go by without posting on any network. A whole day without marketing your business online? That’s crazy! Your inconsistency shows your audience that you aren’t trustworthy. Even if it is subconscious, your potential clients lose faith in your ability to provide consistency in other aspects of your business.
Solution: Use an online tool such as Hootsuite to pre-schedule posts each week. While you still want to make time each day for engagement and relationship-building, you can rest comfortably knowing that your broadcasts are providing steady cover, day in and out. If you can’t even find the time to schedule your posts, consider outsourcing your social media marketing. 2. Your posts all happen in clusters. Do you have a steady stream of posts appearing throughout the day, every day? Or do you find yourself trying to make up for a week of absence by spending three hours in a single clip jumping to several networks? If the latter is more your style, you have no system in place for getting visibility and building relationships with potential customers. By treating social media marketing as an afterthought, you are neglecting simple activities that can grow your business. Instead of cluttering your posts, you want your messages to be sprinkled throughout each day.
Solution: Devote time each week or each morning to pre-schedule your posts so that they appear every hour or two. And take five to ten minutes each day to respond, comment, and share others’ posts (Did you know? These engagement posts also can be scheduled to appear over the course of the day, too). 3. You post only when you have something to promote. Many entrepreneurs say that they have no reason to post on social media because they have nothing to promote. This reasoning goes against the spirit (and effectiveness) of social media marketing. Unless you’ve built trust, provided consistent value, and established strong connections with your community, promoting a product or service on social media will yield abysmal results. Those who are givers on social media (delivering value, sharing, showing kindnesses) see the best results when it comes time to promote a product or service.
Solution: Learn to dig your well BEFORE you are thirsty. If you wait until you have something to promote on social media, it is already too late. It takes time to build strong relationships, so begin now. And don’t stop. Then when you have sometime to promote, your contacts will be more likely to listen and respond. 4. You broadcast only.For social media marketing to be effective, it is absolutely necessary to engage, acknowledge, thank, and share others’ posts. Your audience can’t connect with you if all you do is broadcast your message. They want to relate, associate, join your cause. They will jump on board if they see you as an ally.
Solution: Think of your social media marketing as an interactive workshop, rather than a one-sided lecture. Ask opinions, respond to questions and comments, support others by sharing their posts, show appreciation and thank people when they share and comment. 5. Your social media marketing is tactical, rather than strategic. Your posts, engagement, and relationship building appear to be haphazard, rather than planned. Proven tactics are important, but without following an overall strategy, you don’t have specific goals to reach, and you are constantly reinventing the wheel, attempting new things, and starting over.
Solution: Decide on your main social media marketing goals. Based on these objectives, map out a plan of action, and stick to it – consistently. You will be rewarded.

5 Tips to Master the Delicate Art of Delegation

 By Clark Valberg @ClarkValberg Control freak. Workaholic. Credit hog.
Managers who fall into one or more of these groups usually have one thing in common: a refusal to delegate. Often, though, these managers are none of the above. They just haven’t mastered the emotional balance of delegation. Entrepreneurs and leaders are programmed to despise laziness. That trait is a big part of why they’ve succeeded. With that comes a level of guilt — if they can do more, they should. And in a new business, there’s always more to be done. Despite how painful it may be, delegation is a critical skill all leaders must master to be successful. Not only will delegation give you more brain space and time to devote to doing what you do best — visionary thought — but you’ll also empower your team. Being self-aware enough to recognize this is step one. It’s hard to do, but is anything worth doing ever not? Humility is a sorely underrated trait for a leader. By trusting your team and accepting that you can’t do it all, you’ll accomplish much more as a group than you could have ever accomplished alone. Here are some insights into how to find the right balance for you.1. Be thoughtful about what you can hand off. Take a clear stock of the tasks you have on hand and assess which ones aren’t using your time and skills to their fullest. For those tasks that emerge as delegate-able, incorporate delegation into your existing workflow via staff development and project management plans. You don’t want delegation to be just another task you have to do, but rather a natural part of your existing processes.2. Choose tasks that prioritize your teammates’ careers with increased responsibility. Every leader knows the most successful businesses are the ones with the strongest teams. For your team members to grow individually, they must have opportunities to prove themselves. You may worry that if you empower them and expand their skill sets, they’ll just leave. To that concern I’d say, you should be more worried if you don’t — and they stay. Delegate tasks that push your team members outside of their comfort zone and challenge them to reach a new level of creativity and leadership.3. Channel the time and intensity you would have devoted to the job at hand and redirect that time into educating someone else. How many times have you felt like you were too busy to train someone? Yet, it’s in training others that we cultivate confidence in handing off a task, and show our team members we value their continued growth. Effective teaching and mentorship is its own worthwhile skill you can practice here — when it starts to feel difficult, remind yourself that not only are you helping your employees grow, you’re stretching and strengthening your own teaching muscles, too.4. Get out of the way. I tell my teams to “make it awesome” and let them run with it. I’ve found they do best when they know I have a high expectation but want them to get there without hand holding. Instead of requiring people to do the work exactly how you would have, respect and appreciate the varied styles your teams use to get to the end result. Make sure the technical aspects of the task are clearly defined but allow room for independent thought. If you’ve hired well, your mentorship will plant the seed for some great ideas you may never have even considered.5. Persevere. Recognize that teaching and learning is not always a linear process, and it doesn’t happen smoothly or overnight. The person you chose to delegate to might not grasp exactly what you’re saying the first time around. They may put in a good faith effort but fall short. Don’t use this as an excuse to snatch responsibility back. Use it as a learning tool to recognize where the process went wrong and how it can be made better. Being a self-aware leader means acknowledging that you aren’t a superhero. You’ve intentionally hired your team members to bring skills to the table that you lack. Use smart delegation techniques to grow those employees — and watch your business grow as a result.

The Interconnection of social problems

Criminal sanctions and victimization work to form a system of disadvantage that perpetuates stratification and poverty.
“A sanction is a kind of response meant to reward or punish behavior. Positive sanctions reward conforming behavior, and negative sanctions punish behavior that violates norms. Positive sanctions increase the likelihood that a particular behavior will continue. For example, teachers provide students with positive sanctions by giving higher grades for better work. Good grades reward students and increase the likelihood that they will want to continue to learn and achieve in school. In contrast, negative sanctions punish behavior with the goal of stopping it. For example, police officers give negative sanctions when ticketing drivers for violating traffic laws. Drivers who violate traffic laws put others in danger. Tickets decrease the likelihood that drivers will take risks on the road. Tickets can help society members remain safe by reducing reckless behavior.” Korgen and Furst, (2012)

Punishment impacts individuals convicted of felonies, as well as their families, peer groups, neighborhoods, and racial group.
” Between 1980 and 1996, the population of drug offenders in state prisons grew by more than 16% annually. Mandatory sentencing laws created racial inequities as Blacks and Hispanics-Latinos have been the majority of those arrested and imprisoned for drug offenses.” Korgen and Furst, (2012)

After controlling for population differences, African Americans are incarcerated approximately seven times as often as Whites.
“For example, a 2009 Pew Social Demographic study revealed that Black and Hispanic Americans have far less confidence than Whites in their local police to effectively and fairly address the violence problem.” Korgen and Furst, (2012)

Variation in criminal punishment is linked to economic deprivation.
As the number of felons and former felons rises, collateral sanctions play an ever-larger role in racial and ethnic stratification, operating as an interconnected system of disadvantage.
“Current research has also begun to disentangle the impact of criminal sanctions from self-selection into crime in other arenas of
social life, such as the family, educational attainment, and civic engagement.” Wheelock and Uggen, (2016)

Wheelock, D. & Uggen, C. (2006). Race, poverty, and punishment: The impact of criminal sanctions on racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic inequality (Links to an external site.)Links to an external site.. Working Papers: National Poverty Center. Retrieved from


The uninsured are adults because it is too expensive and they can not afford the fees. so many companies and even public schools do not give health insurance to their employees. A lot of people are not qualified for a financial assistant because they are the working poor. also, the people who do not have a legal paper do not qualify for Medicaid on the marketplace coverage. Million of poor adults who earn too much do not qualify for Medicaid and they do not have enough to qualify for Marketplace premium tax credits.
“Most of the nonelderly in the United States obtain health insurance through an employer, but not all workers are offered employer-sponsored coverage or, if offered, can afford their share of the premiums. Medicaid covers many low-income individuals, and financial assistance for Marketplace coverage is available for many moderate-income people. However, Medicaid eligibility for adults remains limited in some states, and few people can afford to purchase coverage without financial assistance. Some people who are eligible for coverage under the ACA may not know they can get help, and others may still find the cost of coverage prohibitive.” Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, (2017)

The United States spent so much more on healthcare than other countries. And the USA is the only country that does not finance Universal health system but spent so much more of the public dollars on healthcare. Americans have fewer people who stay in the hospital and fewer people go see their doctors however USA spent more money on technologies such as MRI machines. The United States does not spend a lot on helping the poor with shelter, jobs, foods and disability benefits. Although the rate of people who died from cancer is low but more people died from heart diseases.

“Data from the OECD show that the U.S. spent 17.1 percent of its gross domestic product (GDP) on
health care in 2013. This was almost 50 percent more than the next-highest spender (France, 11.6%
of GDP) and almost double what was spent in the U.K. (8.8%). U.S. spending per person was equivalent
to $9,086 (not adjusted for inflation).” Squires and Anderson, (2015)

All residents in the United Kingdom have health insurance from the government and spent $2,802 per capita. The public in the USA spent $4,197 per capita more than other countries with the exception of Norway ($ 4,981) and the Netherlands ($4,495)

Universal healthcare is health insurance that the country provides for all the people in that country. The system can be found by the public but private companies can give the services. The money that the people paid taxes usually pays for health insurance. The system currently in place in the USA is most people can get health insurance coverage through their jobs but when the unemployment increase people lose their health insurance.

Saudi Arabia is one of the countries that guarantee Universal health coverage. Max Fisher, (2012)

The United State does not have Universal health care coverage because of the politicians. Although President Obama signed into law the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act on March 23, 2010, when President Trump took office he got ride of the law. Most politicians do not care about how the poor can not afford to pay for health insurance, they also think the government should stay out of the issues which deal with healthcare.

According to the Fund reports, the USA has the highest costs and the lowest performance. Yes, the government help to fund health insurance for people over the age of 65 via the Medicare program and for people who are very poor through a program called Medicaid.

Memory and Intelligence

People commonly repress memories of traumatic experiences and hypnosis can be useful for retrieving these memories. Some people have a problem with depression or eating disorder which are issues from a trauma that happened to the person. Childhood abuse or incest which the person cannot recall can be remembered through hypnosis by a therapist.

      Women and men had traumatic events occurred to them. Childhood sexual abuse prevalence is 28 percent of women and 16 percent of men. Physical abuse as a child prevalence is 40 percent of women and 53 percent of men. Any type of event that happens quick and life-threatening is something traumatic. A child's parent went to the hospital and died suddenly is a form of trauma. The child can forget her whole life experiences before the trauma, it just erased like the child was never alive. Other times traumatic events overlap, for example, a child got abused and right after the abuser kick the child out of the house. Children and young adulthood trauma might need to deal with loneliness, betrayal of boundaries, trust issues, isolation, and vulnerability. Schnelzer,  (2018).

Although they are several treatments, the person seeks such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). A parent can cause a child not to trust also when the parent does not validate the child’s needs, for example, a child says” Mommy, I want to eat.” The parent denies the child’s needs and says “No, you are not hungry.”
Trauma changes a person basic belief about people and the world, therefore, it is better to get help from professionals. Trauma is when you react with fear, helplessness or horror from an experience. It can take a toll on your physical health as your mental health. The person might turn to smoke, overeating, drinking alcohol or use drugs to deal with bad emotions.
Another way to deal with trauma is using dissociate defense “leaving the body” or disappearing. The event or trauma is stored in a different hard drive. The loss of language can be the result of trauma because that part of the brain was offline.
The stress from trauma can be detrimental and it can kill the person. However, with the proper therapy can help the person to deal with the stress. Although the person might repress the event of trauma once the person understands his or her personality, the road to recovery would be easy.
In order for the person to get heal, he or she must go back to the time the trauma occurred. Relationship with others could be null as a defense mechanism unless the other person had the same trauma. The person may experience tightness in the chest, feelings of fear, shame or powerless and knot in the stomach are all side effect of the trauma.
A person will create protective habits to survive trauma, therefore, it can be very hard to unlearn. Some people can numb their senses, it helps change how a person takes the information. Raja, (2012).

          Freud and Janet stated the correlation between such problems as eating disorder or depression could be an underline suppress the memory of a history of childhood abuse or incest which the clients have no recollection of. The two-psychologist used hypnosis to help the client to remember the trauma. They used this type of therapy to help the patient with his or her present's symptoms. Orne, Whitehouse, Orne & Dinges. (2009).

     The first technological war was the first world war, ten million people died on the battlefield and many others got hurt physically and mentally. (Keegan 3; Winter 15-53). Lots of soldiers suffered from hysterical symptoms, such as deafness and some visual impairment. Hypnosis was used at that time to help them psychologically. Some of the doctors did not believe in hypnosis and they think the doctor who performed hypnosis can overpower the patients similar to rape. Hales. (2011).

       Scholars from the early history of mesmerism and hypnotism did not find proof of retrieval memory during the late 1700s and early to mid-1800s. They did not find any evidence and they believed that Gassner told the patients they had the devil in them and that was the reason of trembling or shaking of the body. Some of the patients were exorcism which is the case of satanic or multiple personalities. Patihis, Burton & Helena J. (2015).

         Hypnosis is used by the therapist to help a person to remember a trauma, Therapist use hypnoanalysis which was made on the theory that ' repressed traumatic memories' can be reached by hypnosis to cure the person of psychological sickness. Hypnosis helps people to remember an unpleasant event. The therapist takes the person back to something that happened when the person was young. Mark P. (2011).

Hypnosis is placebo without deception. Kirsh, (1994); Raz, (2007). A person suffered a traumatic event which left the person without the recollection of the event, can work with a therapist to use hypnosis to retrieve the memory.


Gretchen L. Schnelzer, Ph.D. (2018). Journey through Trauma, A trail guide to the 5-Phase cycle of Healing Repeated Trauma

Jensen, Mark P. (2011). Hypnosis for chronic Pain Management

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Martin T. Orne, Wayne G. Whitehouse, Emily Carota Orne & David F. Dinges. (2009). “Memories” of Anomalous and Traumatic Autobiographical Experiences: Validation and Consolidation of Fantasy Through Hypnosis

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The two major components of treatment for children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) are behavioral therapy and medication.

Home and school interventions: Parents can help their child’s behavior with specific goals such as: (1) maintaining a daily schedule, (2) keeping distractions to a minimum, (3) setting small and reasonable goals, (4) rewarding positive behavior, (5) using charts and checklists to keep a child “on task,” and (6) finding activities in which the child will succeed (sports, hobbies). Children with ADHD may require adjustments in the structure of their educational experience, including tutorial assistance and the use of a resource room. Many children function well throughout the entire school day with their peers. However, some patients with ADHD will benefit from a “pull-out session” to complete tasks, review specific homework assignments, and develop “management” skills necessary for higher education. Extended time for class work/tests may be necessary as well as assignments were written on the board and preferential seating near the teacher. If necessary, an IEP (Individualized Educational Program) should be developed and reviewed periodically with the parents. ADHD is considered a disability falling under U.S. Public Law 101-476 (Individuals With Disabilities Education Act or IDEA). As such, individuals with ADHD may qualify for “appropriate accommodations within the regular classroom” within the public-school system. In addition, the Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA) indicates that secular private schools may be required to provide similar “appropriate accommodations” in their institution.
Psychotherapy: ADHD coaching, a support group, or both can help teens feel more normal and provide well-focused peer feedback and coping skills. Counselors such as psychologists, child and adolescent psychiatrists, behavioral/developmental pediatricians, clinical social workers, and advanced practice nurses can be invaluable to both the children and families. Behavior modification and family therapy are usually necessary for the best possible outcome. Medical Author:
John Mersch, MD, FAAP

Oh no you did’nt

 Oh no you did’nt!!
by Javis “Jay” Brunson @JavisJay
 Before you respond to life’s events and tell your vendor, business partner, boss, co-workers, buddy or spouse to go play in the middle of rush hour traffic or call them everything but a child of God, take time to think clearly and calmly about what you are doing.  Before you respond to the situations remember who you are and the direction you want to be moving.                                                   A frantic, emotional reaction made in haste can often push you back even more than the event to which you are reacting. Certainly, it is sensible to respond promptly to whatever life sends your way. Yet that does not mean that you must respond thoughtlessly and carelessly. Before you do something that might take years to overcome, take a moment to thoughtfully consider your response.  Remember, all experiences are an opportunity for growth. Have a GREAT day and continue doing what you LOVE to do!