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Memory and Intelligence

People commonly repress memories of traumatic experiences and hypnosis can be useful for retrieving these memories. Some people have a problem with depression or eating disorder which are issues from a trauma that happened to the person. Childhood abuse or incest which the person cannot recall can be remembered through hypnosis by a therapist.

      Women and men had traumatic events occurred to them. Childhood sexual abuse prevalence is 28 percent of women and 16 percent of men. Physical abuse as a child prevalence is 40 percent of women and 53 percent of men. Any type of event that happens quick and life-threatening is something traumatic. A child's parent went to the hospital and died suddenly is a form of trauma. The child can forget her whole life experiences before the trauma, it just erased like the child was never alive. Other times traumatic events overlap, for example, a child got abused and right after the abuser kick the child out of the house. Children and young adulthood trauma might need to deal with loneliness, betrayal of boundaries, trust issues, isolation, and vulnerability. Schnelzer,  (2018).

Although they are several treatments, the person seeks such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). A parent can cause a child not to trust also when the parent does not validate the child’s needs, for example, a child says” Mommy, I want to eat.” The parent denies the child’s needs and says “No, you are not hungry.”
Trauma changes a person basic belief about people and the world, therefore, it is better to get help from professionals. Trauma is when you react with fear, helplessness or horror from an experience. It can take a toll on your physical health as your mental health. The person might turn to smoke, overeating, drinking alcohol or use drugs to deal with bad emotions.
Another way to deal with trauma is using dissociate defense “leaving the body” or disappearing. The event or trauma is stored in a different hard drive. The loss of language can be the result of trauma because that part of the brain was offline.
The stress from trauma can be detrimental and it can kill the person. However, with the proper therapy can help the person to deal with the stress. Although the person might repress the event of trauma once the person understands his or her personality, the road to recovery would be easy.
In order for the person to get heal, he or she must go back to the time the trauma occurred. Relationship with others could be null as a defense mechanism unless the other person had the same trauma. The person may experience tightness in the chest, feelings of fear, shame or powerless and knot in the stomach are all side effect of the trauma.
A person will create protective habits to survive trauma, therefore, it can be very hard to unlearn. Some people can numb their senses, it helps change how a person takes the information. Raja, (2012).

          Freud and Janet stated the correlation between such problems as eating disorder or depression could be an underline suppress the memory of a history of childhood abuse or incest which the clients have no recollection of. The two-psychologist used hypnosis to help the client to remember the trauma. They used this type of therapy to help the patient with his or her present's symptoms. Orne, Whitehouse, Orne & Dinges. (2009).


     The first technological war was the first world war, ten million people died on the battlefield and many others got hurt physically and mentally. (Keegan 3; Winter 15-53). Lots of soldiers suffered from hysterical symptoms, such as deafness and some visual impairment. Hypnosis was used at that time to help them psychologically. Some of the doctors did not believe in hypnosis and they think the doctor who performed hypnosis can overpower the patients similar to rape. Hales. (2011).

       Scholars from the early history of mesmerism and hypnotism did not find proof of retrieval memory during the late 1700s and early to mid-1800s. They did not find any evidence and they believed that Gassner told the patients they had the devil in them and that was the reason of trembling or shaking of the body. Some of the patients were exorcism which is the case of satanic or multiple personalities. Patihis, Burton & Helena J. (2015).

         Hypnosis is used by the therapist to help a person to remember a trauma, Therapist use hypnoanalysis which was made on the theory that ' repressed traumatic memories' can be reached by hypnosis to cure the person of psychological sickness. Hypnosis helps people to remember an unpleasant event. The therapist takes the person back to something that happened when the person was young. Mark P. (2011).

Hypnosis is placebo without deception. Kirsh, (1994); Raz, (2007). A person suffered a traumatic event which left the person without the recollection of the event, can work with a therapist to use hypnosis to retrieve the memory.

References:

Gretchen L. Schnelzer, Ph.D. (2018). Journey through Trauma, A trail guide to the 5-Phase cycle of Healing Repeated Trauma

Jensen, Mark P. (2011). Hypnosis for chronic Pain Management

Hales, Barbara;(2011). Seminar: A Journal of Germanic Studies, Nov; 47 (5): 578-590. (journal article), Database: MLA International Bibliography
Subjects: trauma; neurosis; hypnosis; Wiene, Robert; The Hands of Orlac

Martin T. Orne, Wayne G. Whitehouse, Emily Carota Orne & David F. Dinges. (2009). “Memories” of Anomalous and Traumatic Autobiographical Experiences: Validation and Consolidation of Fantasy Through Hypnosis

Patihis, Lawrence; Younes Burton, Helena J.;(2015) Psychology of Consciousness: Theory, Research, and Practice, Vol 2(2), pp. 153-169. Publisher: Educational Publishing Foundation; [Journal Article], Database: PsycARTICLES

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Sheela, Raja, Ph.D. (2012). Overcoming Trauma and PTSD

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7 Things Really Successful People Never Do

What differentiates those who are successful from those who are not? There are lots of ways to approach that question, but one of the most powerful is also one of the most simple.

It’s a matter of habits. In business and in life, if you truly want to succeed, there are some habits that work and there are other habits that never should be repeated.

If you’re not as successful as you want to be and you know you can do better, copy the habits of those who are successful.

Just as important, eliminate any of your own habits that are holding you back. Here are seven top candidates — habits that successful people never allow:

1. Believing you can please everyone.

Once you truly understand that it’s impossible to please everyone, you learn not to even bother trying. It’s nothing but a recipe for disaster, misery and frustration — and one of the biggest keys to failure.

2. Repeating what didn’t work the first time.

Whether it’s in business, a job, or a relationship, successful people do not repeat the same mistakes. If it didn’t work the first time, they don’t try again expecting a different result. Successful people know that mistakes are for learning, not for repeating.

3. Accepting short-term contentment over long-term value.

Successful people know that things take time, and it’s the daily grind that in the end will get them to their dreams. It’s the small painful steps you go through day by day that will benefit you in the future. If you can make it through the pain you will get to the gain.

4. Compromising themselves to fit in.

Successful people never try to adjust themselves to fit in to the crowd. They understand that who they are is what they are, and they don’t try to change themselves for others. The bad news is that if you want to succeed, you are not going to fit in with everyone. The good news is that the great ones never do.

5. Trusting something that looks too good to be true.

No matter how great something looks on the surface, successful people do their due diligence and make sure that what they are looking at has actual value and is worthy of their time. They know that when something looks too good to be true, it probably is.

6. Taking their eyes off their vision.

One trait virtually all successful people share is focus. They never take their eyes off their visions, dreams and goals; they do what they need to do and they do it with meticulous determination. People who are successful know where they are going, and because they do, they succeed. It’s as simple as that.

7. Disconnecting from reality.

Who you are on the inside should be what is reflected on the outside. The moment there is a disconnect between the two, there is dis-ease within yourself. Success requires that you bring all parts of who you are — inside and out — and that you keep everything in sync. It isn’t easy, but the people who are most successful never fragment themselves to be successful.

Start today to examine your own habits, determine what’s leading you toward success and what’s in the way, and make the changes you need to — for the sake of your future.

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Share Your Gifts To The World

How to Stop Holding Yourself Back

By Bedros Keuilian

A lot of people have the E-brake on.

Here’s what that means.

When things don’t work out in our businesses — or at work — we often blame other people or the circumstances.

You blame your co-workers.

You blame the people you hired.

You blame the marketing or sales team.

You might even blame the potential customer.

“The market just doesn’t understand what I have.”

You think you need…

  • Better closing skills

  • A slicker sales funnel

  • A more compelling offer

  • Or the latest sneaky marketing trick being hawked by the so-called “gurus”

After you finish playing the blame game, you simply give up.

But here’s the cold, hard truth about what’s really going on.

You’re throwing the fight.

You aren’t giving your best.

You’re making excuses and taking the easy way out.

I can tell.

You see, thousands of clients have gone through my various coaching programs.

And I know when a person has real marketing problems…

…and when a person has self-sabotage issues.

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In fact, and he won’t mind me saying this, our good friend, Craig Ballantyne, is one of those people. That’s right, Craig himself still has self-sabotage issues.

And you do, too.

I call this self-sabotage issue, “the E-brake problem.”

But it’s not your fault.

Let me explain.

I could give you and Craig a brand new Ferrari, but if the Emergency brake (the E-brake) is pulled, then it won’t go faster than a Honda Civic.

That’s because the car has been neutered.

Likewise, most people have a neutered subconscious mind.

They are holding themselves back.

They’ve got the E-brake on.

You might have a great idea and a hungry market that needs your help, but if you’ve got the brakes on, you’ll never get where you want to be.

But the only way for you to succeed and play up a level is to drop that E-brake.

You have value to add to the world.

You have lives to change.

You have the ability to make a massive impact on the lives of millions…

Just like Craig.

That’s one of the reasons he hired me as his coach — even though we’re business partners.

Craig was wise enough to know that he needed help.

He needed a mentor to guide him and to stop himself from holding back.

You need help releasing the e-brake, too.

It might be that you’re afraid of criticism, afraid of what other people might say, afraid of what your family might think, afraid of failure, and even afraid of success.

Instead of going all out, you hold back because you’re being selfish and protecting yourself from what others think.

So how do you drop the E-brake and accelerate down the road to success?

The answer is that you need to change your belief system.

For example, you might have a negative money mindset that your parents put in your head.

Perhaps they told you that money’s bad, money’s for the rich, that other people have success and we don’t, that we’re the working class and will never be anything else, or that the rich have knowledge that you don’t or ever will.

That negative belief system can be crippling.

It’s one that has held back Craig.

He’s slowly overcoming it, but let me tell you, the anti-abundance chains can be a heavy, heavy weight.

Our childhood experiences shape us, and they shackle us.

You might know the feeling.

There are other pains from the past that can keep us in a mental prison.

You might have been on the receiving end of a cruel comment from a schoolteacher.

Or you might have been abused like I was as a little boy.

Bad things happened to me when I was just a 4-year old kid in Armenia before our family immigrated to America.

Because of this trauma, I found a million reasons in my life to fail at things.

I failed at things on purpose.

Procrastination was one of my bad habits ten years ago before I released the brake.

I’d have a good idea and set aside for “the future,” and then never get around to it.

I went broke in my first business, an online supplement company because I didn’t feel deserving of success.

I didn’t believe that anybody would even want to hear from me.

But the truth of the matter is I had the knowledge to help people and yet I was too afraid to share it.

I pulled my punches.

I threw that fight.

It took years for me to get over it.

But eventually, when I started to work on my personal development, changing my belief systems and cutting out the negative people in my life, I was finally able to break free.

I gave myself permission to succeed.

The time had come to stop holding back, to go out and add massive value to the world, to be an evangelical believer in the message I am here to share.

That’s how I dropped the E-brake.

Join me.

If you’re like I once was, you need to change.

When you drop the E-brake, ideas flow to you and all of a sudden you magically have the courage to take action and overcome the bad habit of procrastination once and for all.

Listen, you have an obligation to get your solution in the hands of as many people as you can so that you can make a change in their lives.

That is how you will free yourself — by first believing in yourself, and then giving of yourself to the world.

It’s the message that I’ve told Craig over and over again, and I can see him believing in it now more than ever.

And let me tell you, he’s a great student.

Everything I instruct him to do, he does.

He takes action.

He works on the skills he needs to improve.

He practices his presentations more than ever.

He asks for feedback.

More important, he is man enough to accept the constructive criticism and then goes back to work on his weaknesses.

And you can too.

Join Craig.

Join me.

Release the brakes.

It all starts with the belief you have a unique gift to share with the world.

And then you need to take massive action.

You don’t need more education.

You just need to take what you know and do it.

You just need to roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty.

Add your value. Sell your message. Do the work.

Get feedback. Fail forward.

And do it again and again.

Each time you do, the E-brake will drop lower and lower…

…And you’ll go faster and faster.

Trust me.

This approach to life is working for Craig, it worked for me, and it will work for you, too.

About the Author: Bedros Keuilian is the embodiment of the American Dream. Arriving in the United States from the communist Soviet Union back in 1980, his family went from being broke to eventually adding value to their new community. Today, Bedros helps over 45,000 fitness experts grow their businesses. Bedros knows the American Dream is NOT dead, because he is living it right now.

After I read the 8 Habits of successful people that you can follow

I started a vision board on Pinterest and I did another on a regular board but I had to be careful because if the wrong person sees it, he or she might think that my vision is too extravagant.
I need to find the right apps for the money management and put ten percent of my income in a portfolio. I already have a desk planner and small calendar to put what I need to do every day and set a time limit also. I exercise everyday especially when I am at work because our students must a physical movement every twenty or thirty minutes. I woke up at 6:11 am and ate healthy meals. I like to work with children and enjoy the way they improve so they can get mainstream and at the end be able to join the inclusion program. Networking comes easily for me because I am a social butterfly and I am able to focus on other strengths.

How to Create Better Habits — Fast

 
Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.” — Benjamin Franklin
 
 
How to Create Better Habits — Fast
 
By Jason Leister
Today I want to share with you a real secret. I will be so bold as to say it is THE secret to accomplishing anything worth doing.

You have probably encountered this secret many times yourself. Most people have. But few people recognize it as the secret it truly is. Instead, they walk right past looking for something better.

This secret is something I walked past many times on my way to something else too. I would often see it laying off to the side of the road. Partially covered with dirt, it didn’t glisten or glow like the secrets I thought I wanted.

At that time in my life, I had no idea that truth and power don’t glisten. They’re not flashy and they certainly don’t attract much attention. Instead, they are still, just giving off their quiet power for those who are ready for them. This is how they stay protected from people who have more growing to do.

Apparently, I had much growing to do before I discovered this secret. I certainly didn’t know it in college.

Back in music school, there’d be these times where everything in my life would start to go down the tubes. Lessons with my teacher wouldn’t go well… performances wouldn’t go well. It seemed like every day was just struggle.

The first time this cycle appeared was sometime during my second year. That’s when the excitement of the first year had worn off and those who knew this secret began to excel.

I certainly didn’t know it.

My frustration was a clue I hadn’t yet discovered the secret. For if I had, these turbulent months would have come and gone virtually unnoticed by myself.

I still hadn’t discovered the secret during my first real job out of college either. I thought it was the crappy employment situation that was to blame for my frustration. Hardly. It was all caused by my lack of understanding of the secret.

So what is this secret to everything — the one I didn’t manage to figure out until not too long ago?

The secret is this:

The only way you get the life you want is to make small investments in your dreams, each and every day you are given to live.

Your future is not determined by luck, by flashes of brilliance or even by “who you know.” It is determined by your willingness to make small investments consistently in the direction of your dreams.

Some people call these “investments” habits.

No one will reward you for your habits. Almost no one will even notice them. So if you are not developing them for you and you alone, then they will never stick around.

Trying to create new habits for “someone else” is a waste of time. Doing it because you feel “compelled” to do it won’t work. Do it for you. Do it because you want it.

And that’s what makes developing habits such a challenge. The training we’ve all received (courtesy of “the system”) has effectively cemented over our ability to be in touch with what we truly want.

Ask 100 people, “what do you want?” and most of them won’t be able to tell you. They can’t even tell themselves.

The odd part is that humans are already “hardwired” to go after what they want. So if knowing “what you want” is a challenge for you, it probably means one of two things is true:

·         You haven’t done the work to “reverse” the training you’ve received. So you aren’t in touch with what you want.

·         What you say you want is not actually what you want.

Once you know what you want, then all that’s left is a simple decision:

Will you live habits that support your journey towards what you want or ones that obstruct it?

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If you really want what you say you want, the habits aren’t really an issue. Small habits, lived daily, will get you there. The power of the small habit is pretty much without limits. Small investments, made consistently over a long enough period of time, can accomplish anything.

If you’re like me, reading a secret like that most likely leaves you underwhelmed. “That’s all?” you might be thinking to yourself. Yes, that’s all.

There’s far more power in these small habits than it appears.

If you truly want to become the best possible version of yourself, then do the thing that very few people are willing to do. That thing is to commit to small habits, daily.

Nothing much will change right away — certainly not in the first few weeks. Maybe not even in the first few months.

But eventually, you’ll wake up one day and find your life transformed. People will ask you how you did it. They’ll try to discover your “secret” for such a major transformation.

They probably won’t be interested in hearing the truth, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’ll finally see just how powerful your secret really is.

About the Author: Jason Leister is a direct response copywriter, internet entrepreneur and editor of the daily e-letter, The Client Letter, where he empowers independent professionals who work with clients. He has seven kids and lives and works in the mountains of Arizona.